When travelling, lose your 'baggage'

I'm off on holiday shortly for a well-earned break.  After a very interesting and busy time with clients working on a whole range of things. Some goal-oriented, some overcoming anxiety/ depression, others relationship challenges or dealing with issues from the past and others facing up to phobias and fears. 

I worked with a client (a terrific coach) enabling her to overcome a fear of flying. After working with me, she fully enjoyed a recent holiday. You can see her blog here, at the Engaging People Company, having written an article on overcoming limiting thinking.     

Back to my own holiday theme, the amount of clothes and shoes that I could pack is a standard joke amongst friends and family. You see, being British, I tend to over-plan for every eventuality where the weather is concerned! One of the things that I would like to travel 'light' with on this holiday, though, is my mind. 

Being self-employed, and working with clients who are self employed too, I see a consistent pattern of 'not switching off' from things like Social Media and from calls and admin. This can lead to a leaching of time into home life. So a clear definition of when you are working and when you are not, is necessary. 

Going on holiday, I want to experience all that there is in new environments. From the moment I am in the airport putting luggage in the hold, right through to flying, arriving at the seaside, feeling the warmth of the sun and having fun. It seems like the perfect time to hit the 'out of office' button and be in the moment.  

I'll be flying high and travelling with a light mind, enjoying every last moment.    

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About the Author: Angie works as a hypnotherapist, counsellor and coach at the Norfolk Clinic Complementary Healthcare Clinic, 38-40 Magdalen Road, Norwich, NR3 4AG. 

Call Angie directly on 07773 610816 or email info@angiegiles.co.uk 
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One small step for you... away from anxiety or low mood (or how to pop that bubble before it bursts)

So how many times have you found yourself sinking into a low or anxious mood recently? I think there are few people, who if they thought carefully, could deny that this happens from time to time.

The thing is, why does it happen? There are some very straightforward reasons for why this happens.
Our brains are pretty much hardwired to spot the negative in things. I don't mean that we go around moaning and groaning, it's more that there is a tendency to zoom in on the negatives at great speed! 
We are all capable of blowing up big bubbles of anxiety (or of depressed thinking) without even realising we are doing so. 

It's also something that we can choose to become more aware of. We can choose spending less time being engaged 'actively' in the very thoughts that lead to those negative feelings. So how can you address those thoughts without pinging an elastic band every time you think of them? (Yes, I had a go at doing that too!)

One thing that I personally found to help me, is the use of mindfulness and meditation. It does not mean clearing my mind, it is more that I focus attention so I become an impartial observer. It means I can spot and identify when thoughts are actually doing me harm. I'm thinking of running another 6 week course in Mindfulness and Meditation for beginners at the Norfolk Clinic from the first week of October. If you want to know more about this very valuable course and for more details, get in touch soon, as bookings are limited to 6 per group.

There's also a number of other things that can support managing your own state of mind. I share ideas with clients, when working with me individually. Some ideas are from different types of therapies, such as CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy), and some are what I'd define as 'logical steps'. All in all a multitude of ways to change the way you think and feel. As a unique client, you will be encouraged to work through issues that are most important to you, so that you are able to see progress, even if just small steps. All those steps add up, don't they?

Angie
    

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About the Author: Angie works as a hypnotherapist, counsellor and coach at the Norfolk Clinic Complementary Healthcare Clinic, 38-40 Magdalen Road, Norwich, NR3 4AG. 

Call Angie directly on 07773 610816 or email info@angiegiles.co.uk 
Angie offers a free initial consultation to find out more. 

worrying vs control

Worrying about things that are out of your control is mentally draining. What if you focused instead on all the things that really matter to you and that you have some sort of control over? Would you feel more empowered? Would you feel less afraid? Would you feel free to make better choices? If you want to focus on the things that will give you greater freedom to be who you want to be, do get in touch.

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About the Author: Angie works as a hypnotherapist, counsellor and coach at the Norfolk Clinic Complementary Healthcare Clinic, 38-40 Magdalen Road, Norwich, NR3 4AG. 

Call Norfolk Clinic reception on 01603 660792 or call Angie directly on 07773 610816. She loves helping people achieve their potential at work, life and finding greater happiness using a range of therapeutic techniques.

Odd socks = Perfect match

Odd socks. I have several odd socks I've kept for months. My favourite blue ones are the latest to have lost a partner. Perhaps the washing machine has eaten the other. I've accepted the fate of opening my sock drawer and finding an odd pairing. I do my best to match the colour and get on with my day. I've accepted I have more important things to do than worry about perfectly matching socks.

Why talk about socks? Well, I've worked with a few clients in recent times that in various ways had felt they were attempting to be 'all things to all people'. Several of them through discussion with me, had come to realise that the stress or anxiety they'd felt about their situations, was sometimes because of setting themselves very high standards. They wanted things to be 'perfect' in every way. Whether parent, employee or manager. They thought their lives needed to be so perfect that they were burning themselves out. Matching socks were the least of their worries.

When a high achiever loses control in some way, it can lead to feelings of anxiety. An example is when our own standards of behaviour /output are personally highly valued. If that expectation is transferred to others (whether colleagues, friends or family) it can lead to conflict. When others fail to live up to expectations, it can result in anxiety or stress. Becoming passively aggressive, overly controlling or domineering may be a negative outcome. In the case of the workplace, delegation ceases or frustration builds with the colleague who doesn't match the high personal standards. Tension builds and potentially affects happiness/ productivity.

In a family/friend context, it can put a big strain on emotional and physical well-being if striving to be all things to all people. Juggling the responsibilities of a demanding job and being a parent or carer can be tough. If the world of social media is anything to go by, people want to be seen as being perfect. They can photoshop their life to show a glossed-over, unrealistic world.

Practice learning to let go of demand for total perfection, find time to do the things that give you pleasure to reduce stress/ anxiety.  If you can let one thing go this coming week, let it be matching socks! It's a good start.

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angiegiles.co.uk
Twitter: angie_therapist
Facebook: Angie Giles Hypnotherapy

About the Author: Angie works as a hypnotherapist, counsellor and coach at the Norfolk Clinic Complementary Healthcare Clinic, 38-40 Magdalen Road, Norwich. 

Call Norfolk Clinic reception on 01603 660792 or Angie directly on 07773 610816. She loves helping other people achieve their potential at work ,life and find greater happiness using a range of therapeutic techniques.

Life as a therapist

I wrote information for Business East (@BusinessEast on twitter) on their blog this week telling them a bit about life as a therapist and about going self-employed, so it might inspire others. 


I hope you enjoy reading it.

Angie Giles talks about life as a hypnotherapist