The magic of heels (or sparkly red shoes): self belief

I remember the first time I went to buy a pair of high heels. There was a good reason, not just fashion. I wanted a pair of heels to look older than my 12 years. I needed to look like I was 14, the age I needed to be to get in to see a then 'AA' rated film at the cinema. The film was the 'Elephant Man'. I'd heard it was amazing and I'd do anything to go. Where I lived there wasn't that many shoe shops in town. My mum went with me and we searched the shop with the 'teen' appeal. 

The pair of shoes I found and fell in love with there were totally impractical. A vivid red/orange colour, peep toe, in suede. I have wide fitting feet and I think these were a narrow fit. My mum asked if I was sure about them. 'Yes' of course I was, my heart was already set on those shoes and so I squeezed my toes into them and thought, 'perfect!' even as the pretty suede pinched the edge of my big and little toes. I believed the shoes made me look and feel older - just the way I needed them to. That was all that mattered. 

I needed no help in the pretence of being older than I was. I added a dab of make up on the evening of the film. I put on those red shoes and wobbled and strutted off with my friend (also in heels). That night my friend and I were also already 14 in our minds, we were emotionally 'grown up' we really believed it. We even behaved more worldly and acted confidently before we got anywhere near the cinema. Of course, we got in to see the film and it was wonderful and moving. I look back now and smile, as it was the genuine belief that we were already two years older, that was amazing and touching. 

It's great what a pair of shoes can do for you. It's also amazing what your imagination can do too. Self-belief starts with a little imagination and practice. You have the power inside. Heels are optional.

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About the Author: Angie works as a hypnotherapist, counsellor and coach at the Norfolk Clinic Complementary Healthcare Clinic, 38-40 Magdalen Road, Norwich.  

Call Norfolk Clinic reception on 01603 660792 or Angie directly on 07773 610816.  She loves helping other people achieve their potential at work, life and find greater happiness using a range of therapeutic techniques.