It's National Stress Awareness Month in April. I was wondering, what things cause you the most stress? Have you noticed a change in your or another person's behaviour or their reactions to things in recent times? The Mind (charity) guide to managing stress is full of practical and relevant tips.
The option of hypnotherapy, deep relaxation and mindful coaching can really support you too. Having someone outside of your usual network can offer a new perspective and give you some insight to help clear your mind. If you want to know more, why not give me a call on: 07773 610816, and you can book in for a half-hour free consultation.
About Me
- Angie Giles
- Life happens. Sometimes good and sometimes not so good. This is an exploration of life and all that interests me. I am a therapist working in Norwich, Norfolk, UK. I'm fascinated in the world around me and how people deal with and relate to it. I like to further my knowledge of people, psychology and more. Please join me on my journey.
Showing posts with label behaviour. Show all posts
Showing posts with label behaviour. Show all posts
Wednesday, 11 April 2012
Sunday, 9 October 2011
Fight or Flight?
Stress can lead us to have an undesired fast-track reaction to individuals or situations. Where we would normally be rational and calm in our minds, the smallest thing can send a stressed individual 'off the scale'. I've dealt with it and have felt it in the past.
Have you ever been in stressed situations in the past where all your nerve endings are fired up and ready to 'fight or flight'? It's quite a normal response to want to do either of those things in extreme emergencies, it's more negative when it's a loved one who happens to say the wrong thing at the wrong time.
It's really about what is known as coping mechanisms. For some examples, if shown as a child (whether by parents or carers) that the way to deal with a stressful situation is to shout or get angry or walk away, then likely that behaviour will continue into adulthood. If the response is to get angry or to withdraw, both of these behaviours can be damaging to personal relationships. Especially if they are repeated many times, it really can wear through all the layers of good stuff that are built up.
It takes a brave person to ask a question of someone who we feel is doing us an injustice or to find out if the 'truth' in our current stressed state is actually what we are thinking it is... perhaps realising that someone else has actually a totally different take on the situation. Patience is required before 'blowing your top'.
What would stop us from asking a question to establish what a loved one really means? 'Why do you say that?' for example. I will be remembering this as a lesson for this week and hope it helps anyone reading this too.
Have you ever been in stressed situations in the past where all your nerve endings are fired up and ready to 'fight or flight'? It's quite a normal response to want to do either of those things in extreme emergencies, it's more negative when it's a loved one who happens to say the wrong thing at the wrong time.
It's really about what is known as coping mechanisms. For some examples, if shown as a child (whether by parents or carers) that the way to deal with a stressful situation is to shout or get angry or walk away, then likely that behaviour will continue into adulthood. If the response is to get angry or to withdraw, both of these behaviours can be damaging to personal relationships. Especially if they are repeated many times, it really can wear through all the layers of good stuff that are built up.
It takes a brave person to ask a question of someone who we feel is doing us an injustice or to find out if the 'truth' in our current stressed state is actually what we are thinking it is... perhaps realising that someone else has actually a totally different take on the situation. Patience is required before 'blowing your top'.
What would stop us from asking a question to establish what a loved one really means? 'Why do you say that?' for example. I will be remembering this as a lesson for this week and hope it helps anyone reading this too.
Sunday, 2 October 2011
blue skies and fresh air
Today has been the most wonderful, sunny and invigorating day. I am feeling bright and chirpy after a very hectic and fun day. Driving along seeing the changes in the trees and looking at sunny skies. I noticed and love the way the plants have adapted to the mix of weather we have had. It makes you realise how adaptable nature is. Then I thought to myself, how adaptable are we to life changes?
Last week one of my clients became smoke-free. Becoming free of the old thoughts, habits, behaviours and reasons for smoking. Having worked through the background to smoking and what was stopping them from changing (nothing!), they found alternative and refreshing things to do to replace the old habit. They said goodbye to the old routine in favour of new alternatives. I can imagine a feeling of freedom will be well matched with the beautiful blue, warm, sunny skies that have been above us here in good old blighty! I wish that client (and all those of you who are in the process of making changes) a very happy, smoke-free future now the burden of smoking is something you no longer want.
Wishing you all a very relaxing, fresh and happy week ahead.
Last week one of my clients became smoke-free. Becoming free of the old thoughts, habits, behaviours and reasons for smoking. Having worked through the background to smoking and what was stopping them from changing (nothing!), they found alternative and refreshing things to do to replace the old habit. They said goodbye to the old routine in favour of new alternatives. I can imagine a feeling of freedom will be well matched with the beautiful blue, warm, sunny skies that have been above us here in good old blighty! I wish that client (and all those of you who are in the process of making changes) a very happy, smoke-free future now the burden of smoking is something you no longer want.
Wishing you all a very relaxing, fresh and happy week ahead.
Sunday, 21 August 2011
Community stars
Why they should receive this mention is simple. They were out early and enjoying a walk through the local area, as they often do. On today's journey they came across a confused elderly lady, still in her nightwear. So, rather than ignore the behaviour of this lady, which others appeared to be doing (whether in car or on foot) they took the time to ASK if she was OK. They took the time to find out why she might be outside in her nightwear. They also did not make her feel foolish, they enjoyed a giggle WITH her not at her expense. They stayed with her and made sure she was comfortable and safe, until a policewoman turned up to help.
It might have taken up a small part of their day, it might have seemed a small inconvenience. What they did might have made a big difference to the safety and well-being of someone's mother, someone's grandmother, someone's friend.
If only there were more community stars out there. Well done girls, brilliant to hear such a heart-warming tale of kindness and compassion.
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