A nudge in the right direction

I came across this quote and rather liked it: 

"when a stick floating down the river gets stuck, it doesn't need psychotherapy, it just needs a nudge" (Michael Neill) 

It's about getting the right sort of help at the right time.

I recently found myself on the open river (see the picture), leading towards one of the glorious Norfolk Broads. Kayaking is a great thing to do and for me, getting outside, in the fresh air is very good for my soul! 

At one point, after a rest, I needed help. A man seated nearby with his friends could see I was tiring a bit, so he very kindly asked if he might give me a 'nudge' away from the sandy bank towards the flow of the main river. I said yes and was grateful for his help as it was perfectly timed and very helpful. 

The idea of a helpful 'nudge' makes sense to me. In the U.S. there has, in the past, been a culture of seeing therapists for long periods. In the U.K. though less obvious perhaps, there's more awareness of the benefit of sorting out emotional or confidence issues holding us back. We are gradually seeing a shift towards making use of opportunities for building emotional muscle and getting ourselves into a stronger position. It doesn't require months of coaching/therapy either, well certainly not with me. 
My clients sometimes just need a mental nudge, a little coaching or perhaps an opportunity to use me as a sounding board for thinking more clearly and gaining confidence. 

Of course there are times when longer term psychotherapy is of use and I am able to offer that too, should the need arise. 

When your 'job/relationship/mindset' gets stuck, get in touch, I'll let you know how I can help nudge yourself back into the flow... 

(I must mention The Canoe Man (Wroxham, Norfolk) as they offer a range of  hiring/ camping options for the novice kayaker/ canoeist. The picture is one I took as I went along the River Bure, Norfolk. Lovely isn't it? I'd recommend giving this a go) 

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About the Author: Angie works as a hypnotherapist, counsellor and coach at the Norfolk Clinic Complementary Healthcare Clinic, 38-40 Magdalen Road, Norwich, NR3 4AG. 

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You are not a tree! Change and move forward

Asking for help

Facing up to an issue is something many people put off until it becomes a problem. 
If you are in a position where you are struggling to find a way forward, it may be the time to find out how counselling, hypnotherapy or coaching may support you in facing that problem, whatever it is. 

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About the Author: Angie works as a hypnotherapist, counsellor and coach at the Norfolk Clinic Complementary Healthcare Clinic, 38-40 Magdalen Road, Norwich, NR3 4AG. 

Call Norfolk Clinic reception on 01603 660792 or call Angie directly on 07773 610816. She loves helping people achieve their potential at work, in life and finding greater happiness using a range of therapeutic techniques.

worrying vs control

Worrying about things that are out of your control is mentally draining. What if you focused instead on all the things that really matter to you and that you have some sort of control over? Would you feel more empowered? Would you feel less afraid? Would you feel free to make better choices? If you want to focus on the things that will give you greater freedom to be who you want to be, do get in touch.

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About the Author: Angie works as a hypnotherapist, counsellor and coach at the Norfolk Clinic Complementary Healthcare Clinic, 38-40 Magdalen Road, Norwich, NR3 4AG. 

Call Norfolk Clinic reception on 01603 660792 or call Angie directly on 07773 610816. She loves helping people achieve their potential at work, life and finding greater happiness using a range of therapeutic techniques.

Self-Reliance

Self-reliance is a skill. It could also be considered a mind-set. As a skill that can be understood and learned, I think it goes hand in hand with having the right mentality to make it happen. But where do you start?

If you face a problem, you may feel out of control. You don't know whether to take action or stick your head in the sand, run and hide or face up to whatever it is. It can feel quite fearful on a number of levels.

People may want to boost their ability to take control and improve their lot. Whether that be at the end of a relationship where the other person made most decisions or took control of problems, & it feels daunting to find a way forward. Or perhaps at work, where doubts about abilities and confidence can surface. Or those not allowed to be their own person from a very young age and wanting to develop their confidence and self-reliance. 

You can start by giving yourself permission to be self-reliant (it does not mean being selfish, that's something different) You could start right now, say, 'I am self-reliant'. Check what that is like as you say it. Do you feel stronger? When you do something slightly out of your comfort zone, eg, suggesting to a co-worker you do a particular task that perhaps they usually seem to 'take over'. Afterwards, reward yourself with something positive. You overcame fear. The more you rely on you, the happier you will be.  

It is possible to find and get your self-reliance reward. I nearly wrote 'award' then! Actually, it could be like giving yourself an award, a 'recognition' of a skill, if you like. That's a rewarding idea.     

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About the Author: Angie works as a hypnotherapist, counsellor and coach at the Norfolk Clinic Complementary Healthcare Clinic, 38-40 Magdalen Road, Norwich.  

Call Norfolk Clinic reception on 01603 660792 or Angie directly on 07773 610816.  She loves helping other people achieve their potential in life and work and to find greater happiness using a range of therapeutic techniques.

Butt-kicking or pat on the back?

Occasionally I see something, whether a quote, a picture or   something I read, that makes me sit up and take notice. Especially when it's to do with abilities not being encouraged. Perhaps its the natural 'coach' in me! 

Seeing a news report, a story from a friend or hearing from a client of first-hand experience of feeling like they had been overlooked.  

Several people I've met over the years told me that school/ sport /club sometimes left them feeling like they were running an uphill battle with them at the bottom of the hill trying to reach the top. No support was provided to get there. Yet they had the ability in them and had 'given up' trying. 

They were shouted at for doing things wrong or for not doing it the way the system believed it should be (school, club - whatever really). Negative and restrictive behaviours surrounding the system brought them down. It wasn't their fault, yet they thought it was. It was the system that was actually failing. It was not meeting their needs and conformed to the majority of the participants that were in it.

Then I hear other stories of people who have been lucky enough to have worked with an amazing teacher/coach/leader. Amazing in that a person is respected for being sensitive to the needs of people who struggled in the traditional systems. These inspirational people seem to instinctively know to inspire and train people who maybe don't fit the 'usual' system requirements. They know how to encourage and empower and inspire confidence and also introduce fun ways of keeping that knowledge. 

The best thing that all of these leaders, teachers and coaches seem to do, is find a way of reaching out to people. Encouraging and reinforcing learning in a fun and forgiving way. Learning is also about making mistakes and people often fear making mistakes. So if a student/person does happen to make a mistake they are made aware, encouraged to correct it themselves, or shown how to solve it if they do not have the actual skill required. No getting hung up on any idea of 'failure'. 

There might not always be available time to give to that one person who is struggling, especially in a team environment, as everybody needs to be 'on the ball'. However, that one person may remember and respect that inspirational teacher/coach/ leader who bothered to stop, show and encourage them.  If they are finding it tough it will mean a lot to them and inspire them to keep going.     

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angiegiles.co.uk
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About the Author: Angie works as a hypnotherapist, counsellor and coach at the Norfolk Clinic Complementary Healthcare Clinic, 38-40 Magdalen Road, Norwich. 

Call Norfolk Clinic reception on 01603 660792 or Angie directly on 07773 610816. She loves helping other people achieve their potential at work ,life and find greater happiness using a range of therapeutic techniques.

freedom; a great thing or a bit nerve-wracking?

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About the Author: Angie works as a hypnotherapist, counsellor and coach at the Norfolk Clinic Complementary Healthcare Clinic, 38-40 Magdalen Road, Norwich. Norfolk Clinic reception on 01603 660792 or directly on 07773 610816. She loves helping other people achieve their potential at work and in life and achieving happiness using a range of therapeutic techniques.

Believe and you can achieve

If you have a goal, keep reaching for it. The journey is as important as the destination and coaching and hypnotherapy can allow you to visualise and make those dreams a reality. 'Believe and you can achieve'